I was at Target a couple weeks ago and picked up a book called MWF Seeking BFF by Rachel Bertsche. Turns out, she’s a fellow WordPress blogger (http://mwfseekingbff.com , I’m not sure yet how to add a link to my post). I was looking for a good lunch-break book and got some great suggestions (thanks IVF Male for suggesting Game of Thrones, still need to look it up!). With the colorful polka-dots and catchy title, it was an instant buy. Like the cover, it’s a fun-read about a newly-married gal who moved to a new city and started looking for a new BFF. I can totally relate in the sense that some of my closest friends live in different states and I have been on a search (or more like, on a hunt) for new BFFs. Ladies, is it just me, or is friend-making in our 20’s & 30’s a little more difficult and/or complicated than passing notes in High School? I find, especially in this state, that it is very rare to meet a native Floridian as much as it is hard to build a friendship before my new buddy has to move away. So it can be complicated, yet I am thankful I’ve made a few fabulous friendships along the way.
That being said, yesterday I went on my first “blind” friend-date. Let me give you some history. Back in July, the boys were spending time with their family on the West Coast. Hubby and I were like honey-mooners for a month! We went on this pub-crawl and met some other fun couples during the event. No surprise, I had a few (or several) glasses of wine and I was a blabbering fool.
Well, the next morning, I woke up to drunk text messages.. to another lady! According to my husband I instantly connected with someone. I don’t even remember how I we exchanged phone numbers. Nooo… I’m not leaning that way, I am still a faithful, loving wife to my husband. These text messages were like, “My son’s name is the same as your husband’s!” and, “let’s get the kids together sometime!” Yes, we shared drunken-lets-be-friends text messages. And funny thing, we have stayed in touch ever since.
So, a couple days ago, she sent me a text message that she was going to take her daughter to a Fall Festival, and we decided to meet up! Can you imagine my anxiety? That morning, I kept thinking, “will she like sober-me?” I can’t remember what drunk-me was like… I’m a little reserved at first and drunk-me is much more outgoing! I was excited but a bit nervous.
As it turned out, my new friend is a little more reserved too! Not so much that we didn’t have good conversation, but we had a great time. We had plenty to talk about and the kids were shyer than us adults.
Back to the book I’m reading, one of the author’s latest posts reads, “It’s not that your new potential friend doesn’t want to have a friend date with you. It’s that everyone is waiting for someone else to make the move. To do the work. To take a chance.” (From her post on Friending the Only Thing You Need to Know, Oct 29).
Even us introverts have to take a step once in a while… and, when all else fails, there’s nothing like a little liquid courage 😉 Kidding, of course